Kathleen, I pulled your last post out of a different thread to give it one of its own. I hope you don't mind. You raise such excellent points, and as Jenny mentioned, examples of where emergent learning might not happen.
Your words "I don't know, this goes against every fibre of my being" emphasized for me how often in life we're nested together expecting to accomplish something, expecting to learn, but we all come at it with different passions and beliefs.